In my romantic relationships, it showed up by providing constant service to my partner while deprioritizing myself.įor many relationships, this happens when you start to adopt your partner’s happiness as your own. Even when I did realize it and tried to distance myself from it, the machista tendencies would subconsciously make their way into the way I lived. It wasn’t until years later that I realized this sacrificial way of loving was deep-rooted in machismo: the idea that I had to serve others before my own needs to feel loved and valued. The normalization of sacrifice as a love language became part of the way I learned how to love others as well. My mother has constantly used her time and energy to make sure her husband and children were always taken care of, living a life of deprioritizing herself to make sure those around her flourished. Once we reunited in the United States, my parents continued to play these sacrificial roles their entire lives, sometimes working 14-16 hour days and sometimes going without sleep to get in a few hours of quality time with their children. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() My mother made the sacrifice to take on the role of both parents once both my sister and I were born. It left me wondering, are sacrifices an intrinsic part of Latinx relationships? My father made the sacrifice to part ways with his young new bride and unborn child to come to the United States to be able to provide for us.
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